Keeping finishes consistent across mixed vendors

Mixing upholstery and casegoods from different vendors, the cohesion always breaks at wood tone, sheen, and that pesky 18 vs 19-inch seat height when I’m trying to get a calm, continuous read through a 24’ living–dining combo. What vendor-neutral resources have you used — stain/veneer decks or crosswalks to ML Campbell/Mohawk finishes — that help furniture from different lines feel like one family without resorting to full custom?

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For finish cohesion, I stopped chasing vendor stain names and send Lab* targets plus a 60° gloss number from a Nix Spectro 2; most shops can crosswalk that to ML Campbell or Mohawk within dE<2. > “18 vs 19-inch seat height” — I keep 1/2-inch felt/glide stacks in the kit to sneak the extra half-inch at install so the sightline stays calm.

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